Wednesday, September 14, 2011

The patriarch

Happy Wednesday, everyone. I am back from vacation, during which I spent some time with my grandfather in Florida and then came home and got some things done around here. It was nice to have a break.
My sister-in-law, Beth, and I out for a walk/run in Florida.

I know I have mentioned before that my relationship with my much-beloved grandfather has, at times, taken on a negative aspect because of my weight. He’s been tough on me about my size, and, at one point, offered to give me $5 for every pound I lost.

When I first started my weight loss, I told him I’d take him up on that offer. He decided our deal would end when I lost 50 pounds (perhaps he didn’t think I would actually succeed? He’d owe me big if he had kept it up the whole time).

My grandfather struggled with his own weight most of his life. So, for most of mine, he’s told me what a pretty face I have. And if I just lost weight, maybe I’d have a boyfriend. Sigh. I know he means well, and I know he loves me. But those words were hurtful at times.

I hadn’t seen him in 124 pounds. And I was a little nervous. I’ve kept him posted on my progress. I’ve sent him pictures. But I was still worried I wouldn’t be good enough for him.

When I first saw him, though, he couldn’t have been more excited to see my progress. He told me dozens of times how good I look. I guess I made him proud after all.

He even gave me money to go shopping. I used it to buy a pair of size 12 (!) pants.

Thanks, Grandpa.


Anonymous said...

I love this photo.

Anonymous said...

I know he's old so maybe we should cut him some slack, but people like him are why people like you have no self-esteem.

Erika said...

Thanks for the sweet photo comment, Anon No. 1.

Anon No. 2, I understand what you're saying, but I know he didn't intend to hurt me. And I do have at least SOME self esteem. I promise. :)

Sarah said...

You are doing so well! You look fantastic! I'm not one bit surprised that your grandfather is so proud of you :)

Anonymous said...

It's because he wants the best for you that he's using tough love. Nothing beats making someone so hard on you proud. Sometimes the words are hurtful, but it pushes you to prove yourself.

LT said...

Look how happy your grandpa looks! I don't know him, but I know you. Pretty well I'd say. And I think just being able to see and spend time with you put that smile on his face. It happens to me every time I see you!

I wish that more people had the opportunity to truly know you (and not make comments like Anon #2). But, it makes me feel pretty good that I'm one of a select few :-). You truly make my life better just by being you. Loves ya!

Anonymous said...

Great picture, y'all look so happy!