Friday, January 22, 2016

The age factor

I grew up with a mother who never, ever, under any circumstances, discussed her age.

I’m not quite like that. I am usually OK with discussing my age. I think part of it is because I don’t feel my age. 41. Is that right? Sometimes I still have to count backward. So 41 must be the new 21. Or 31. Or whatever. It’s something younger than I feel, that’s for sure.

I’ve become this person who rolls her eyes at Millennials with their perfectly timed and planned Instagram posts, their uber-catchy phrases and their ignorance of the pop culture influences of my own youth. Get off my lawn, dammit.

But I’m pretty sure it’s not bitterness that plagues me, when I really start searching my soul about it. It’s jealousy. They have something that I don’t.


Sure, those of you older than I might think I’m young. I get it. I remember dreading turning 28. I was SO old. The 41-year-old me would like to punch that girl, by the way.

I’m plagued with regret about the time I’ve wasted beating myself up, being uncomfortable with my body and planning for a “thin future.” The time I’ve spent thinking of all this seriously would add up to decades.

But now I have a new regret about my wasted time—and I’m even more aware of my age. Because I very much hope one day to be a mother.

I’m not sure how much of this journey I’ll share with you, but considering I lean pretty heavily toward the overshare side, I’m sure you’ll hear more.

For now, I’ll tell this. This week I saw a doctor to talk about my options and how I could increase my chances of being a mother at this later age.

We talked about my age. My past issues with all my…parts. And my family history.

And then we talked about my weight.

The truth is that I knew it was coming. I wasn’t surprised. She was so gentle and kind about it. So lovely. We want to increase every chance of you getting pregnant and then having a successful pregnancy, she said. And then she referred me to a nutritionist.

I mean, look, I have gained some weight back. And even if not, I never got less than 50 pounds away from my goal weight anyway.  So yeah, I expected it. But man, it hurts.

To think that my weight isn’t just holding me back from my life, but it’s possibly holding me back from birth. The question remains—is this enough to compel me to change? Damn, I sure hope so.

Because now, I’m not the only part of this equation. 

I was never good at math, but I’m pretty sure that makes it a hell of a lot more important.

Friday, January 8, 2016

Starting from scratch and a half

Happy 2016, y'all.

Last year was supposed to be the best year ever. The year I got back on track—when I was in the best shape of my life and felt fabulous and healthy on my wedding day.

OK, so none of those things really happened. Except the wedding day.

If you read my last post about six months ago or so, my year didn’t go at all as I planned. And because of that, I really wasn’t able to focus on my health.

This year I’m hoping it will be different—starting with this blog.

I struggle with this a bit. Do you really want to read stuff you already read from me? Because in a lot of ways, I feel like I’m starting from scratch. I have a new name, I’m in a new decade of life, I’m a different person. But a lot of my issues are the same. So at the risk of repeating some of the things I said in 2011 or 2012, I’m going to start again. And I hope you’ll join me.

It’s risky. If you enjoy my posts, you might be afraid to connect with me again, for fear I’ll quit—once again. The truth is that I can’t make any promises. What I can tell you is that I haven’t really quit. I mean, not totally. I fall down most days, but somehow I still get up and try again. I still believe that my ultimate goal is possible.

I hope you guys will join me once again and share your own journeys.I don't want to overpromise, but for now, I'll start with an entry a week. That's do-able. 

I’ll leave you with this: I'm not where I want to be--not by a long shot. I'm not where I was a couple of years ago. But I'm not where I started. And that has to count for something, right?